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Believe it or not, your self worth is directly correlated to how you view and treat sex. You see, you either view yourself as a cubic zirconia or a diamond. You are either are cheap imiatation of the real thing or you are the real deal. You either place little value on yourself and your relationships or you believe that you and your relationship with your significant other is worth mulit-millions. 


I promise you, you're self image and your relationship is directly correlated to how you view and treat sex. You are are either a zirconia or a diamond. Let me explain.


How are Zirconias and Diamonds Made?


Cubic zirconia crystals are made by melting powdered zirconium and zirconium dioxide together and heating them up to 4,982ºF. A cubic zirconia is a perfectly man-made, flawless stone that is free of inclusions. Cubic zirconia is not a diamond, though it is difficult for the naked eye to tell the difference between a cubic zirconia and a diamond. 


Diamonds on the other hand, are formed deep within the earth about 100 miles or so below the surface in the upper mantle. Obviously, in that part of the earth it's very hot. There's a lot of pressure. The weight of the overlying rock bearing down, combining with the high temperature and high pressure, is what is necessary to grow diamond crystals in the earth. Because diamonds are created so deep inside the earth, it's impossible for man to drill that far down to reach them.


The way diamonds reach the surface of the earth is by volcanic erruptions throughout the course of history. These volcanic erruptions forced the diamonds upward toward the surface of the earth where they can be mined. 


What's the Real Difference between Zirconia's and Diamonds?


The difference between Zirconias and Diamonds is very simple.


One is man made and the other is made by God.


The counterfeit is cheap. The real thing is costly.


Now let's apply this principle to sex, self worth, and relationships. Ask any woman what she’d rather have: a 2 carat zirconia or a 2 carat diamond? What do you think she will reply? Some women will want the zirconia but most women want the diamond.


That’s how relationships and sex is too. If you want the quick fix, the cheap way out, place little value on sex in a relationship like a zirconia. You’ll get what you pay for. It’ll look great on your finger. You might be able to fool some people. You might even get some gasps out of it, but in the end it has very little value. It’s a fake version of the real thing.


Here's a key principle about self worth and relationships:


What costs little, means little, what costs much, means much.


Whatever you value in life, you are willing to pay a great price for. It might be a car, a house, a rare piece of art, or even a relationship. If you value something, you will work for it–you will pay dearly for it. But if you don’t work for it, if you don’t have to pay a high price for it, you will place little worth on it.


Now think about this relates to sex. How you treat sex prior to marriage, reveals how much you value yourself, your relationships, and your future spouse.  If you sleep around, you're teaching other people that you aren't valuable: you're just a zirconia. Whether you realize it or not, you are also sending a message to your future spouse about how you view them. If you sleep around, you are saying that you don't really value yourself, or your future spouse.  Sex should be reserved for your most precious relationship. And when you reserve sex for your future spouse, you are unconscioiusly sending them a message of how much you think they are worth.


Here's the good news.  Regardless of your past, today is a new day! God sees you as a diamond. Today you can choose to view yourself the way God views you: an exquisitely rare gem that He would pay the highest price to acquire.


If you are single, today, choose to become a diamond. When temptation comes knocking on your door, choose to be a diamond. It's not an easy road. In fact, it might be the hardest things you've ever accomplished and it's definitely the ropad less traveled. But it's the road that pays the highest dividends.

Sexual Purity and Loyalty

What this blog is discussing is a concept I'll call, 'sexual loyalty.' Sexual loyalty begins long before your marriage. If you are reserving yourself for your future spouse, you are already being loyal to them, even if you haven't met them yet. It also shows how priceless you view sex with you. Don't be cheap. Don't be the zirconia. Be the diamond.


If you choose the road of sexual loyalty, this is the  message you will send to the everyone around you: I am an invaluable prize. My body is a temple of God's Spirit. I am outrageously loved and I will wait for that one special mate whom God chooses to bring into my life. I will reserve my heart, my mind, my soul, and my body for true love, because I am invaluable. My relationship with my future significant other is also invaluable. We are diamonds.

ツ DR